Find what makes you happy and do it. Sounds simple enough doesn’t it?
What makes you happy?
Start by looking at today. What choices do you have today to make yourself happier? Today is the only time when you’re actually in control of what you can do to be happy. We can’t control what other people do or what happens outside us. But we can control what’s happening right now and how we feel about it.
After all isn’t being happy today the point? The past is gone and the future hasn’t happened yet, so there’s absolutely no point in worrying about what has happened or what might happen sometime in the future.
Worrying about how happy we’ll be in the future is a waste of our energy. Worrying our future life mirroring our past isn’t a productive way to get happier when all we can really control is what happens today. Actually what we think about what’s happening today is the catch. You could be in a traffic jam and choose to think it’s a disaster or simply realize it’s out of your control and put on a podcast or CD you’ve been wanting to catch up on. We’ve always got the opportunity to turn around any negative thought.
We can always choose to feel good about something right now. It doesn’t have to be big. I think that’s what we miss when we try to change. Big shifts are trickier, little shifts in thought can be eked out and boosted if we practice.
That’s how to do it. Make it small. Happiness starts as a small little squirt in our hearts. Too often we crush it by thinking it needs to be bigger or about something bigger. But it doesn’t. Small is a good place to start.
For example I get happy riding my bike. Feeling the sheer enjoyment of the bike moving me through the air and past the river and trees just buoys me. By now I’ve realized if I go riding my bike it instantly raises my mood and my happiness level. It’s not big but it feels pretty darn good, so I do it as often as I can.
What’s your simple “I can do it today” happy maker? What always lifts your boat? Reach for that feeling and nurture it. It can be as simple as going for a walk because you know that clears your head. Or picking up the phone to someone who always picks you up.
The one mistake we all make is delaying those simple moments that create happy feelings. We deny them, and push them aside as not important. Soon we’ve gotten into the habit of forgetting what actually does make us happy!
Remind yourself today. Forget about the past and the future and pick one small pick me up you know will make you happy. Each time we trigger happy feelings, it gets easier. Try it now.