How’s your New Year’s resolution er reinvention coming along?
Hello lovely! How were your holidays? Do you believe another year has slipped by? I don’t. I’m always in shock when I realize we are brushing up against 2020!!
Here’s a reminder from last year because I still believe we can look at this time of year as an opportunity in more ways than one.
As 2018 comes to an end what feelings come up when you think of the New Year? Are you making any New Year’s resolutions or do you avoid thinking about the future?
Mid winter is a tough time to try kickstarting your diet, leaping into a gym or changing any sneaky bad habits. When it’s cold outside it’s not the easiest time to wean yourself off comfort food and drink. Exercise resolutions conceived in desperation after the holiday indulgence are classically doomed to failure.
The holidays create a vicious cycle of indulgence, guilt and remorse which we feel compelled to repeat. No wonder we dread the beginning of the New Year! We’re asked to shop til we drop, spend til we’re broke, eat drink and be merry. But on the stroke of the new year we’re expected to reverse the damage pronto.
We’ve learned from past experience, our post holiday attempts to shed the pounds, sculpt the body and reboot our habits may just be a total fail. We’re Wonder Woman but we’re not super woman. We feel compelled to make the effort to slap ourselves into shape, but deep down we’re tired of setting ourselves up, then not reaching our goals.
Are New Year’s resolutions doomed to fail?
I’m not averse to the idea of using the new year as an excuse to get my act together. It’s a chance to reboot and get down to business. But for all the reasons I’ve given you, I can’t remember the last time I consciously made a New Year’s resolution. I don’t like to fail. Setting myself up for disappointment isn’t my idea of how I want to kick off the new year.
Can we agree New Year’s resolutions are counter productive? They make you feel bad for being human. If you’re one of those super women who make and keep their good habits, kudos! The rest of us mortals need to find a way to reframe the start of the year in a more positive light!
Swap Resolutions for Reinvention:
Instead of making a resolution to lose weight, get fit and transform our clutter, what if we reframe the cliche of making resolutions into a more meaningful exercise like reinventing ourselves? Ooops I didn’t mean to say exercise!
What Does it Mean to Reinvent Yourself:
Resolutions imply we’re faulty and now we need to fix it. Or organize it or pummel it into submission. Reinvention is assessing what works and what doesn’t. Then we choose to change what isn’t working for us.
Reinvention Looks Like This:
You woke up one day and realized you never made it to Italy and it was always a lemony prosecco fueled dream you would. So what’s it going to take to get you there? Do it. Can you find a partner who wants to go too and will help keep you accountable? Could you start to save in a travel fund? You won’t get there by resolving to, you’ll get there by putting a solid plan in place. Your dream awaits!
Reinvention Feels Like This:
When you’ve chosen to put your dreams and desires as a priority, you’ve taken the first step to self awareness. Self awareness is what makes reinvention possible. Reinvention creates feelings of positive and unlimited optimism. You’re choosing to make a change that fuels your self destiny. Brava!
How to Make Reinvention a Practice:
Promise me every time you think the word “should” you stop and go. Hmmm. That’s not me, that’s my ego talking. Reinvention comes from your heart, it is the cookie crumbs leading you to your heart’s desire. Your intuition is a crumb. Follow it, listen to it and heed it. It knows where you want to be and how to get there. What about those Italian lessons?
Drop Those New Year’s Resolutions:
The next time you think of New Year’s resolutions, I hope you’ll feel a secret sense of satisfaction when you realize you’ve dropped that habit and picked up a killer self care routine called reinvention instead.
Happy new 2019 year! Here’s to following our dreams.