What If Your Lifestyle Is Holding You Back?


If lifestyle is defined as the way we choose to live, what do our lifestyle choices say about us? Have you ever consciously thought about the lifestyle choices you’ve made or has the way you live become such a part of you, it’s not on your conscious radar anymore.

I have to tell you, I’ve just had a wake up call. I hadn’t noticed how my much lifestyle influenced my happiness.

It’s time to ask ourselves if our lifestyle is working for us.

How we choose to live at mid life is our choice. Human nature means it’s easy to slide into a comfort zone where we don’t question our “why” anymore. But what if your lifestyle is holding you back from leading a happier, more fulfilled life?

What if you tap into what’s most important to you to redesign a lifestyle that’s a better fit?

One big lifestyle change could include moving or downsizing into a more manageable home. You might choose to move closer to your kids or grandkids. Moving to a state or country where the cost of living is lower and your money can go further is also an attractive option.

I recently decided to spend more time in southeast England to be closer to family. Being closer to family is a big draw for me; not just for the comfort of knowing I have a support system but also for the joy of hanging out with close kin.

Moving to a different country may not work for you, but what lifestyle changes could bring you the most joy?

I love living where I can easily walk to everything; or take a bus or train to get anywhere I want to wander. I’m delighted I can be walking amongst cows within 10 minutes of walking out the front door. A new culture with historical richness and diversity stimulates and intrigues me. Mastering the challenge of navigating new cultures and language fires up my mid life brain.

Moving to England fulfilled two important lifestyle wishes I needed to feel truly content. Being close to family and nature.

What lifestyle changes could you make to be more in tune with who you are now. What inspires you?

Mid Life Lifestyle Upgrades and Solutions:
  • Want to travel internationally? Live close enough to a major hub airport in a home you can lock and go.
  • Want to be a part of your grandchildren’s lives? Choose how close you want to be. Close enough to babysit or just close enough to visit often.
  • Want to give everyone peace of mind? Move to a home easy to maintain and age in while you’re still active.
  • Want to spend more time in nature? Make it easy to get to walkable trails and parks.
  • Want to feel more financially secure? Give up the big house and car. Focus on experiences not your stuff.
Does Your Current Lifestyle Fit Who You Are Now?

Ask yourself if your lifestyle is still working for you. Are you engaged and fulfilled by your neighborhood, hobbies, friends and location? Do you look forward to getting up and starting your day or are you dragging yourself out of bed each morning.

Lifestyle is the framework in which we choose to live our lives. Lifestyle embodies our hopes and desires for our external life. Where we live, who we hang out with, what we do on the weekend and where we go to relax.

Signs Your Lifestyle May be Holding You Back

Ideally our external lifestyle is a match for our inner life. If it isn’t we feel disconnected, with a vague sense something is missing.

When your soul is crying out for more spirituality but your credit cards are maxed out and you feel pressured into keeping up with the Jones, you’re setting yourself up for unhappiness.

You may be ready to improve your lifestyle if you feel a vague sense of discontentment that has no obvious cause. You find fault for no good reason. Deep down you feel you’re holding back your true self and living inauthentically. You’ve lost sight of what brings you pleasure and seem to be just cruising through the days with little motivation. Oy vey!

Of course these symptoms may come from different causes but if deep down you’re dissatisfied with your life, look at your lifestyle. If it’s not thrilling you then it may be slowly killing you.

Don’t give up or give in. Search for what’s calling you and make your lifestyle whatever  you want it to be. It’s never too late.

Uplevel Your Lifestyle

If your soul has a yearning to do something different, now is the time to make changes. You can’t push that feeling down; your inner self won’t go away. You’ll feel a nagging sense you’re running out of time to be your true self.

I’m not going to lie, changes in mid life create a certain amount of mayhem. BUT, now is the time to tweak your life to reflect your true inner self. Let your outer life style be congruent with your inner life and realize peace of mind.

Before I tweaked my lifestyle, I lived with a vague sense of disconnection and kept thinking “one of these days” I’ll be closer to family and nature. Now that I’ve taken the steps to make it happen, I’m happier with my life and myself for making it happen.

Start by writing down the five scenarios you daydream about the most. Which one can you start taking action on today?





I created HOF to inspire over 50 women to follow their dreams. Whether you find them in your backyard or far away, it’s never too late to start!

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